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I’m Hesitant to Follow Friday

Jun 11, 2010 / Just Me / Trackback

This morning while I savored the aroma, heat and flavor of my first latte of the day, snuggled cozily in bed with the pillows propped up against the wall, Nena at my feet, Chanel at my side and Batman on a mission to catch an imaginary bird flying around the house, I checked Facebook and Twitter.

I bit my lip because it seemed everywhere I looked people were happy it was Friday, happy the week had passed. They didn’t even want to experience the day – they wanted to jump right to the end of it. My fingers began to work their trickery in the status field…

Does anyone “savor the moment” these days? I see a bazillion posts about tomorrow, tonight, next week, looking forward to Fridays…. what about the moment we are in? This moment too is marvelous and to be savored. You’ll never get it back so unless it is unwrenchingly intolerable, wishing it away and trying to pull the future forward is wishing your life away… living it is much more rewarding.

It seems life passes so many people by. How often I hear, where did the time go, it was just yesterday (last week, last year)? Is it a sign of the times that people are living rote lives?

Have you ever sat quietly watching a clock? Why is it so difficult for most people to relax watching it tick, enjoying the rhythm of the timing? Time passes much more slowly when you watch it. It seems to make many people feel uncomfortable to sit idly “not doing anything”. My grandmother used to say “a watched pot never boils” and I used to challenge it. I learned to notice every second with every tick of the second hand and realize I would never see those moments again.

Each moment should be felt and celebrated, when it passes it’s gone forever. So OK, maybe all moments aren’t the ones you jump for joy over, some hurt. But, they are the ones you learn from, the ones that make you feel to the core of your being that you are alive and that you are significant and insignificant all at the same time.

Do you ever just sit and look at your fingers, watch them move, be conscious of them and then mentally move to your wrists, arms, shoulders, up the back of your neck, to the top of your head, to your forehead.. down to the bottoms of your feet? Are you conscious of your heartbeat?

I admit that each night as I reflect on the day and look forward to the next as I drift off to sleep, I am a little bit saddened that I now have one less day left in my life.  They’re all so grand I wish none would ever end.

Day, n.  A period of twenty-four hours, mostly misspent.  ~Ambrose Bierce




Responses

Jerry Albright
Jun 11, 2010 at 9:24 PM

A few weeks ago my sons (9 and 7) were beside me at the breakfast table. I said “Guess what gift we've been given today?” You could see them both thinking of all the wonderful things that may have arrived.

I didn't tease them too long. I said “Today we have the gift of life. Everyone in our family is safe today and we get to do what we want with this day – so let's be thankful for today.”

My youngest son caught on pretty quick. “Well then, every day is a gift, right Dad?”

Children are so smart!


Brenda L
Jun 11, 2010 at 9:34 PM

Enlightening, Karla! It is a shame that many of us never take the time to “smell the proverbial roses” and we are all living in a rush/rush society. It's refreshing to read and I've seen you tweet it out before that you are so completely happy in your life, you are a true inspiration to others.

Jerry, you are a great Dad. Don't want to get started on this subject – but it's a shame so many children are out there not able to hear and feel the love you just wrote about. Keep up the good work!


Karla Porter
Jun 12, 2010 at 3:20 AM

Jerry – Brenda said it right, all children should have those lessons with their parents.

Brenda – I can't explain why I am this way, I walk around marveled at just about everything. When things have gone terribly wrong I have just moved on without bitterness or grudges and I don't live in the past. It probably doesn't hurt that I have a big mental filter and let the bad things go right into the trash…. I don't have to work at it so I consider myself very fortunate.


Trish McFarlane
Jun 12, 2010 at 3:13 PM

Jerry is right. Teaching your kids that each day is important and that we need to be grateful for our health and being together is so important. There are many times that I have to just stop what I'm doing and go “do nothing” with my kids. I know it's those times when I'm doing that with them that they will remember the most. Thanks for writing a post to make us stop and think Karla.


Shennee Rutt
Jun 12, 2010 at 4:21 PM

Karla-
This post really stopped me in my tracks. You are so right. We all really need to smell the coffee in the morning, pause and reflect on the world we live in and tune into ourselves.
Life is short. Too short in fact. Celebrating the days, the birthdays, the anniversaries. So important.
Great post.
Shennee


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